5 lessons I learned in my early 20's
They say your early 20's is all about loving yourself first, having fun and exploring, making mistakes and learning from them, falling in love and experiencing heartbreaks, to some new friendships that'll last you a lifetime to losing touch with some of those you grew up with.
I turned 25 a couple of days ago, and trust me it's still a huge deal for me EVEN NOW but as I bid goodbye to my early 20's and after a series of conversations followed by a couple of drinks (aaarghh, that's the other way round actually: a couple of conversations followed by a series of drinks) with my friends, I realised I have grown into a different person.
And after some introspection, I attributed this change to some of the most important lessons I learned during one of the most important phases of my life, one that has shaped me into who I am today in a lot of ways.
You might be able to relate to some of these, so I thought I'l pen them down for you because honestly I feel every 22-23 year old around me is/was going through this.
Lesson No. 1: Be patient
If you would have met the 22 year old me and asked me to be patient when someone yelled at me for reasons I thought weren't justifiable, I would have completely shunned you away tbh. But over the last couple of months, I have realised it takes so much courage to be patient. Patient with people, patient with your circumstances and yourself. And trust me it's worth it. It's really okay if your friend/ partner yelled at you that one time, it's really okay if you aren't exactly where you want to be professionally and others perhaps are, it's okay if you are single, it's okay if you don't have the body you have always wanted just yet. It's really all okay! Be patient and calm.
Lesson No. 2: Your perfect timing is unique to you
You can never really be happy if you compare your life to others all the time. Everything is happening as much for you as it is for anyone else. But the timing for those amazing things that you have been waiting for to materialise is different for everyone. You will get exactly what you need in life when the time is right. You will meet your life partner when the Universe thinks you are ready, you will get your dream job when you are ready and you will travel and earn when you are ready. So don't be disheartened and focus on yourself
Lesson No 3: Focus on yourself
When you hit 25, you realise a woman's body changes so rapidly in the the next 5 years. It becomes really important to take some time out to focus on your health and skin. It is no longer cool to be a low maintenance girl so workout , eat well, indulge in some skincare and haircare. I am starting to do that now and it feels great!
Lesson No 4: Value friendships
I didn't realise how very valuable my best friends are but the kind of stress, anxiety, doubt, heart break and all these negative emotions that people our age find themselves in, made me realise how important it is to have great friends who will always have your back and you will have theirs.
Keep your friends close and give them a tight hug!
Lesson No 5: Parents are your best friends
Okay I sound like an oldie already, but really as you grow old, you will realise that the kind of selfless, unconditional love your parents give you cannot really be compared or traded with anything on the planet. I have been able to survive all these years only because I had my parents right next to me even when I wasn't an ideal daughter to them. Cherish every single moment with them because trust me, it's not a good feeling to watch them grow old.
If you are in your 20's, I am almost 100% sure that you don't think your life is perfect haha! And that's totally normal. All that matters is you are learning from these life experiences and these lessons will lead you to a perfect life x